Temper, testosterone…
We have a lovely seven-year-old boy. He is generous-hearted, not too boisterous and has a strong sense of right and wrong.
Well, a strong sense of what he thinks is right and wrong, anyway.
Sometimes he suffers a disappointment, and especially when he’s tired, this can lead to a spike in his temper. Generally a gentle soul, I have seen him kick his younger sister just because she happened to be there, even hit the seven-month-old baby because he feels wronged.
Once upon a time I read a book called Raising Boys, I think it was by Steve Biddulph? Please correct me if I am wrong. Anyhow, it talks about these periods in a boy’s life where his testosterone will spike. I seem to remember one was at age 4 and the next was between 6 and 7. And we all know about the one at puberty.
So, how do you get them to control this sudden violent urge? We are trying to be understanding, but not hesitating to come down on him like a ton of bricks discipline-wise if he gets violent. And I’m hesitant to say it, but if he hits the baby he gets a big smack as well.
What works? What doesn’t work? Of course, as parents, the only way we know if we’re successful in our parenting is 10-15 years down the line (and even then sometimes it’s just down to luck and the combination of your personalities). There just aren’t any obvious answers are there?
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